I have a friend who has been in a treatment program full time for PTSD, eating disorders and a host of other things, since September. All a result of years of sexual, physical and emotional violations. That is putting a life on pause. We seldom place our health first in our hectic world.
She is one of the contributors to Unlock The Door-Beyond Sexual Abuse. The chapter is called Hope - because she wanted to remain anonymous and because that is what I hold in my heart for her.
She has done an incredible amount work on herself given the fact that she is in her mid-twenties. Much time and effort all to move toward healing. Yet, memories and fear of what the future holds, have haunted her since her fathers incarceration. (Not to mention her mother). Reaching out and seeking help was not easy for her. It never is for anyone.
When you have been sexually violated there is often a veil of silence that cripples your ability to stand up and state openly, honestly and clearly what happened to you (and who the perpetrator was). Often we don't even have the words to express what originated from confusion and evolved into a host of unhealthy coping strategies and emotion turmoil.
Sadly, the silence is often because sexual abuse is grouped with the other taboos we have not traditionally spoken out about...but times they are a-changin'!
Many people are coming out of the silence and discovering they are not alone. There are millions on this planet who were violated as children. Many are now slowly recognizing the seriousness of the epidemic of childhood sexual abuse. Since writing Unlock The Door I have had many people come forward and say they never revealed they were abused and now they are seeking help-finally. I had two emails last week that brought tears to my eyes. People getting help and beginning to understand and to heal.
I am so impressed with Hope's courage, recognition of needing help and commitment to change her thoughts, that I simply am at a loss for the words - maybe, "I am so proud of you?" or "I am honoured to call you a friend?" or "Healing is a life commitment and you are way ahead of most."
I don't know. I simply know that going through a period of rapid change is inevitable in life and can be as difficult as gratifying....
Hopefully, it is always, at least productive - if not inspirational to others.